I watched HBO series "Allen vs Farrow" where Mia Farrow a single mother with many children (2 of hers,3 adopted), meets Woody Allen, who convince here to adopt a girl Dylan and they have a boy together Ronan.
Dylan accuses him of sexually abuse when she was 7 years old. Other persons testify Allen's strange behavior. He marries his adoptive daughter Sun Yi age 21. This would be considered incest according with France's penal code.
On the other side of Atlantic,in France,Evelyne Pinsel-Kouchner, divorcee with 3 children marries Olivier Duhamel, a known advocate, and they adopt 2 children.
Now Camille Kouchner accusses him in a book of raping her brother at age of 12. Oliver Duhamel finally admitted guilt.
Also in arts and literature we have such cases: in the movie Lolita , Humbert the pedophile seduces Dolores's mother to have access her.
Now I am thinking that Lolita story should be mandatory reading for single moms with children.
What is interesting is that Mia Farrow and Evelyne Pinsel, lived in a libertine environment, where sexual boundaries were transgressed. Mia lived in Hollywood, Evelyn in left leaning caviar socialist community from Paris, where they changed lovers like socks.
This environment attracts all kind of sexual deviants.
Yet, not even in a strict environment like catholic church,your children are not safe.
If in a strict environment like catholic church the threat comes from authority, in a libertine environment the treat can come from anyone because of low moral standards.
For example: in the book "La grande familia", Evelyn ask her daughter Camille: "what is the big deal ? He (her husband) didn't sodomize him (her son). They had only fellatio"
A woman with higher moral standards would have avoided Olivier a womanizer all together. A normal woman would have sided with her children.
If a mother believes her children, she has 2 options: goes to the police or uses violence. But she can't use violence because she will go to prison, and children to orphanage.
These abuse cases where you have only the testimony of a child against of an adult are hard to win.
It is interesting to see in 'Allen vs Farrow' how much influence can have a famous film director in NY:
- Data from Dylan interviews with social workers and psychologist was destroyed after they declared that was no evidence of abuse, despite being required to conserve the data.
- A social worker from NY was sacked because he didn't played ball, and he declared that Dylan was abused.
What I noticed in both cases was a neglect from the parents:
- In both cases fathers were away.
- Mia was busy with all the children and didn't noticed anything. (I think she has some problems, she had 2 children she adopted 3 and made another one)
- Evelyn she was depressed and drunk, and ignored her children, who entered under the influence of Olivier Duhamel, the pedo.
If the bond between parents would have been stronger, the children would have said something earlier and both monsters would have been caught.
If the fathers would have kept a stronger connection with their children they would have found out and take some measures, or they would have intimidated the child molester.
But they were disunited families, groups of individuals, easy prey for a lurking predator.
Ladies, even you have grudge against your ex, let him more close to your children, if he is not a felon,a drug addict or a child molester, of course.
He might lower the chance that other men abuse your children.
